I was recently sitting in the doctor’s office wondering how much I will weigh. I am concerned because they might call me obese. Being short in stature makes it hard when you are on the weight curve borderline. I am right in between normal and obese. What on earth does this have to do with self-rejection? Last year, I was still abusing my body by doing cleanses and other nasty things to myself to hit a certain number on the scale. If I hit that special number, will I be okay? It will make me pretty, loved and finally accepted by others.
As you can see from this twisted thinking, self-contempt is something I have struggled with for an exceptionally long time. Coming free from under this type of delusion has not been easy. Being raised without confidence and told how and what to think can be detrimental. This is true when you sit in the doctor’s office wondering what label they will give me. I hate labels, don’t you?
Taking away the labels
As we come into agreement with what the Lord says about us, we start to fully grasp and heal from self-abuse. Through lots of inner healing work and sessions with the Holy Spirit, these labels started to melt-away. Anger, comparison, and control were replaced with God’s love and peace. No longer where these the identity labels a part of me, but they were released and gone from my body.
Love the following revelation from Lana Vawser and how it shows the Father’s heart towards his daughters and their healing. “I am melting deep roots of self-hatred and bringing incredible restoration, release, recompense (make amends for loss and harm suffered) and restitution.
Now My daughters will set into their destiny like never before and how I REJOICE over them with singing. I am inviting My daughters into a divine dance of intimacy with Me in the secret place. It will be like meeting Me for the first time all over again. The enemy has used the root of self-hatred for so long to keep My daughters bound, but no more! This is their day of radical freedom and life-changing encounters with My love. Their day of deliverance has arrived!”
What are the evidences of self-rejection?
By being rooted and grounded in His love, we begin recognize our need to accept God’s design and step into our identity. The following list from iblp.org can help you see where self-rejection infiltrates your life.
- Inability to trust God – If a person rejects God’s design for their physical appearance, they probably will have difficulty putting confidence in the Designer’s plan for other areas of their life.
- Self-criticism – complaints about unchangeable physical features, abilities, parentage and social heritage are indications of self-rejection.
- Wishful Comparison with Others – desiring to be different in areas that cannot be changed is a clear evidence of self-rejection. “Shall the thing formed say to him that formed it, why hast those made me this?” Romans 9:20
- Floating Bitterness – Many people have said “I hate myself!” They may be referring to their words or actions in the past, or they may be referring to their whole being. Their final hatred will be directed toward the One who made them.
- Perfectionism – It is healthy to want to do our best, but when the time expended outweighs the value of the accomplishment, it is an indication of self-rejection. Condemning your best as “never good enough.”
- Attitudes of Superiority – A person with an attitude of superiority feels inferior but is trying to narrow his field of comparison.
- Wrong Priorities – self-rejection may be reflected in a neglect of God-given responsibilities in order to spend much time in pursuit of that which could bring acclaim from others.
Dealing with self-rejection requires turning to God and thanking Him for how He made you. Then we come into an understanding of who you are in Christ. Meditate on the truth of Scripture and see what God says about you. Psalm 139:13-14 “I saw you as you were formed in your mother’s womb. You are fearfully and wonderfully made.” The God of the Universe tells us we are each unique, worthy, and chosen. The list above shows what can happen when we do not believe our identity in Christ. By knowing what God says about each of us, we can step into the destiny He has for us. Let the Holy Spirit show you where you need to change and step forward into the good works He has created for you. Then, you will be able to live from a place of victory.