Computer use can be monitored. If you are in danger, call 800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or use a safer device.

Resources & Safety

Safety first.

Help for getting out. Hope for what comes after.

These resources help women and men escape domestic violence and find safety, support, and freedom. If you are helping a loved one, start here too.

The hotline is free, confidential, and always awake: 800-799-7233

If you need help now

National DV Hotline

800-799-7233

Call any hour. Free, confidential, and staffed by people who understand.

Crisis Text Line

Text START to 88788

Silent help from any phone, no call required.

Safehouse Denver

303-318-9989

Shelter and advocacy in Colorado, tonight if needed.

domesticshelters.org

Find a shelter near you

Searchable by ZIP, anywhere in the country.

Start where you are.

Reading in secret counts. Planning counts. Staying alive counts.

Understanding abuse

What is Financial Abuse?

Control of the money is control of the exit.

What is Emotional and Psychological Abuse?

The harm that leaves no mark anyone else can see.

What is Verbal Abuse?

Words used to keep power, named plainly.

Making a plan, and holding the line

Safety Planning

Documents, money, a bag, a signal, in order.

Abuse and Boundary Setting

Saying no, and making it hold.

Emotional Abuse Happening to Men

It happens to men too, and it is just as real.

Healing after.

When you're out and safe, the longer work begins.

The books

Written from the far side of leaving, start with Deeply Wounded Hope.

Browse the books

The podcast

Pursuing Redemption: people who made it through, telling how.

Listen to an episode

The ministry behind this

Restoring Ministries is why these resources stay free.

See the work

The full resource directory.

Every link Heather keeps handy, organized by what you need right now. External links open in a new tab.

National domestic violence

50 Shades of Gaslighting

https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/11/50-shades-of-gaslighting

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66% of Children Suffer Trauma by the Age of 16

https://asanarecovery.com/impacts-of-childhood-trauma/

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Domestic Abuse in the Digital Age

https://www.daytonohlawyer.com/tracked-hacked-controlled-domestic-abuse-in-the-digital-age/

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Domestic Shelters

Search for a shelter near you by ZIP code.

https://www.domesticshelters.org/

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Domestic Violence Resource Section

https://onlinemftprograms.com/domestic-violence-prevention-and-resources/

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Empowering Internet Safety Guide

https://www.vpnmentor.com/blog/the-empowering-internet-safety-guide-for-women/

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Focus Ministries

http://www.focusministries1.org/

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Guide on Dating Violence

https://safeharborhouse.com/dating-violence/

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How to Create a Comforting Home for Abuse Survivors

https://www.homeadvisor.com/r/how-to-create-a-comforting-home-for-abuse-survivors/

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National Domestic Violence Hotline

Call 800-799-7233 any hour, or text START to 88788.

https://www.thehotline.org/

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National Resource Center on Domestic Violence

http://nrcdv.org

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Safe Connectivity Tips for Domestic Violence Victims

https://www.reviews.com/blog/safe-connectivity-tips/

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Safehouse Denver

http://www.safehousedenver.org

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Technology, Teens and Domestic Violence

https://www.sunshinebehavioralhealth.com/resources/domestic-violence/

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Addiction and recovery

Addiction and Domestic Violence

https://www.addictioncenter.com/addiction/domestic-violence/

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Addiction Group and Domestic Violence

https://www.addictiongroup.org/addiction/domestic-violence/

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Alcohol and Drug Rehab for Domestic Violence Victims

https://www.alltreatment.com/rehab-domestic-violence/

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Domestic Violence and Drug Abuse

https://addictionresource.com/domestic-violence-and-drug-abuse/

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Domestic Violence Awareness Through Wristbands

https://www.wristbandexpress.com/content/domestic-violence-awareness-through-wristbands

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Grief Guide

https://www.cnvdetox.com/understanding-grief/

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Helping Young Hearts Heal: Grief Support for Children

https://www.snappywords.com/knowledge/helping-young-hearts-heal-a-guide-to-grief-support-for-children/

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Substance Abuse and Domestic Violence

https://freebythesea.com/addiction-resources/domestic-violence/

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The Recovery Village

https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/resources/domestic-violence/

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Understanding Grief

https://www.singlecare.com/blog/understanding-grief-symptoms-stages-and-coping/

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Books

Deeply Wounded Hope

Heather's story of surviving domestic violence. Signed on request when you order from her.

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Deeply Wounded Hope, Arabic edition

https://www.paypal.com/ncp/payment/QZNSPZ5989RZJ

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Deeply Wounded Hope on Amazon

https://www.amazon.com/Deeply-Wounded-Hope-Heather-Shore/dp/0578192047

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Deeply Wounded Hope on Apple Books

https://itunes.apple.com/us/book/deeply-wounded-hope/id1331040710

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Deeply Wounded Hope on Barnes & Noble

https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/deeply-wounded-hope-heather-shore/1127553124

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Deeply Wounded Hope on Kobo

https://www.kobo.com/us/en/ebook/deeply-wounded-hope

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Emotionally Healthy Spirituality

Safety first.

Start where you are.

Healing after.

The full resource directory.

You are not alone in this.