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How to give grace

Posted by on Apr 21, 2015 in Book, Domestic Violence | 1 comment

Grace is sometimes a foreign concept to me. There are times I don’t know how to give it or receive it. Lately I’ve been struggling with how to give grace to others.

It’s been very hard to start this site and write chapters about my dv story and not have the support of my parents since they play a part in the story. Parents who love and want whats best for me, don’t know how to support me in the uncomfortable places. When I told them about starting a dv site with a goal of helping others, they said that’s nice. My mom told me she would never read the site or read my book. She doesn’t want to ever relive what I went through. The truth is my parents have never healed from the whole experience. It breaks my heart to see it, but I’ve had to come to terms with their decisions. And some of their decisions are hard for me to accept.

Which brings me back to grace. I have to constantly remind myself that everyone deserves grace. A few ways I’m learning how to give grace is to swallow my pride, not keep score of what they do for others and not me, not give up on them and to speak words that lift them up. I’m far from perfect or even close to giving grace consistently, but hoping I can grow. Act. Give Grace. And eventually Bloom.

One Comment

  1. Grace is never deserved … by definition. That’s the freeing part. I can so relate to your story. If I remove myself from the center of my universe and place myself where I belong, grace flows much easier. I want to read more of your writing.

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