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Domestic Violence

Guarding our kids against abuse

Posted by on Jan 15, 2019 in Book, Domestic Violence | 0 comments

Imagine being 18 and contemplating suicide because of your high school relationship. You’re about to go off to college, but can’t seem to break away from the boyfriend who won’t stop calling and texting you 50 times a day. He won’t leave you alone, shows up at your house to drive you to school and hangs out at your locker. What would you do – tell somebody or wait it out? This scenario is an average day for someone in a controlling, abusive relationship. These types of relationships are becoming more prevalent among young people in the U.S.  Domestic abuse and other types of bullying are a...

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Hope in Hardship

Posted by on Oct 23, 2018 in Book, Domestic Violence | 0 comments

Hope in hardship is one of the themes of my story. Hope means holding onto courage when you feel like giving up. Courage keeps up moving towards hope. How does someone keep hope during hardship? Give yourself grace. Grace is an undeserved gift. Sometimes the gift is recognizing you’re exactly where you need to be in your story. You don’t have to be as far along as someone else. Whether you’re just leaving your perpetrator or have been out of the relationship for 15 years, giving yourself grace will allow you to enjoy life. Finding and holding onto grace can empower you to be hopeful each...

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What is Emotional and Psychological Abuse?

Posted by on Oct 15, 2018 in Book, Domestic Violence | 0 comments

Abuse comes in many different forms leading to different consequences and reactions. Abuse ultimately is always about power and control. The partners’ goal is to maintain power in the relationship and figure out how to control the other person. One definition of emotional abuse is: “any act including confinement, isolation, verbal assault, humiliation, intimidation, infantilization, or any other treatment which may diminish the sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth.”1 The perpetrator’s goal is to always undermine the self-worth and dignity of the one they are abusing. Often the...

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What is Verbal Abuse?

Posted by on Oct 8, 2018 in Book, Domestic Violence | 0 comments

Abuse comes in many different forms leading to different consequences and reactions. Abuse ultimately is always about power and control. The partners’ goal is to maintain power in the relationship and figure out how to control the other person. Verbal abuse is when a person forcefully criticizes, insults, or denounces someone else.[1] Characterized by underlying anger and hostility, it is a destructive form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the other person and produce negative emotions.[2]  While those definitions are very accurate descriptions, it doesn’t encompass the...

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What is Financial Abuse?

Posted by on Oct 1, 2018 in Book, Domestic Violence | 0 comments

Abuse comes in many different forms leading to different consequences and reactions. Abuse ultimately is always about power and control. The partners’ goal is to maintain power in the relationship and figure out how to control the other person. Financial abuse is one of the ways an abuser gains control of the situation. Financial abuse occurs when one intimate partner has control over the other partner’s access to economic resources, such as their source of income, credit cards, etc. This form of abuse is often prevalent and very subtle. The partner slowly works their control over the victim...

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