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What is Emotional and Psychological Abuse?

Posted by on Oct 15, 2018 in Book, Domestic Violence, domestic violence month | 0 comments

Abuse comes in many different forms leading to different consequences and reactions. Abuse ultimately is always about power and control. The partners’ goal is to maintain power in the relationship and figure out how to control the other person. One definition of emotional abuse is: “any act including confinement, isolation, verbal assault, humiliation, intimidation, infantilization, or any other treatment which may diminish the sense of identity, dignity, and self-worth.”1 The perpetrator’s goal is to always undermine the self-worth and...

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What is Verbal Abuse?

Posted by on Oct 8, 2018 in Book, Domestic Violence, domestic violence month | 0 comments

Abuse comes in many different forms leading to different consequences and reactions. Abuse ultimately is always about power and control. The partners’ goal is to maintain power in the relationship and figure out how to control the other person. Verbal abuse is when a person forcefully criticizes, insults, or denounces someone else.[1] Characterized by underlying anger and hostility, it is a destructive form of communication intended to harm the self-concept of the other person and produce negative emotions.[2]  While those definitions are...

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The day I met a prophet

Posted by on Oct 7, 2018 in Compassion | 0 comments

This past Sunday was an ordinary day which became extraordinary. On the way to my friends house, I sensed God telling me to stop and buy some homeless guys a sandwich from Subway. There were 3 homeless men hanging out on the corner of Colfax. A little annoyed because I wanted to go to Jimmy Johns, I went into Subway wondering what I was getting into. I walked in and was greeted by a friendly kid behind the counter. I asked the worker if the homeless guys had been fed and he said no. I told him I wanted to buy them a meal. The worker was blown...

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What is Financial Abuse?

Posted by on Oct 1, 2018 in Book, Domestic Violence, domestic violence month | 0 comments

Abuse comes in many different forms leading to different consequences and reactions. Abuse ultimately is always about power and control. The partners’ goal is to maintain power in the relationship and figure out how to control the other person. Financial abuse is one of the ways an abuser gains control of the situation. Financial abuse occurs when one intimate partner has control over the other partner’s access to economic resources, such as their source of income, credit cards, etc. This form of abuse is often prevalent and very subtle. The...

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Rebuild or walk away?

Posted by on Sep 16, 2018 in Book, Relationships | 0 comments

The older you get the harder it is to maintain friendships. Life ebbs and flows, friends move away, and people move on to other circles. Moving this last year and additional health issues caused me to be in a funk. I wondered if this was my new reality or something else was happening. Part of my issue was thyroid cancer and thank goodness it’s gone! The cancer was causing exhaustion and a low-level depression while wreaking emotional havoc on my body. During this time a good friend of mine stopped being friendly. As we met to talk through our...

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Digital Detox

Posted by on Sep 7, 2018 in Encouragement, Kids, Marriage | 0 comments

This summer I decided to do a digital detox. What a hard thing to tackle. It tested my patience to not be in the know. I wondered what was going on in others lives, but this time gave me space to be present with others. This is why it started in the first place, to be present in my little kids lives. Summer’s are always such precious times as families. Taking a step back from the news, social media and other outlets truly helped me to refresh. It was such a lovely summer of refreshment. I’m thinking a  much shorter digital detox once a year...

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Were you a Christian during your abusive marriage?

Posted by on Aug 29, 2018 in Compassion, Domestic Violence, Marriage | 0 comments

I’ve had people ask me several times if I was Christian during my first marriage. Some Christians find it hard to believe you can enter a marriage like this and be a Christian. I beg to differ as I was personally naive and ignored the warning signs. An early twenty-something doesn’t always have the life skills to recognize when something is amiss in someone else. I was recently at a book event and this question came up after my talk. While being taken aback for 30 seconds, I gave them an answer I think they weren’t expecting. Yes I was...

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You’re exactly where you need to be

Posted by on Jul 9, 2018 in Comparison, Encouragement, Following God | 0 comments

It’s summer! I love (insert heart emoji many times) summer in Evergreen. It’s my favorite season up in the foothills because there is no snow and its warm. If it could be like this all year, I’d be in heaven. I would prefer to live at the beach, but my husband won’t let me buy a beach house until I’m older (like 60). That’s another story for another time. Summer is always a carefree time for us. We have a lot more freedom to go, explore and have adventures. However, in addition to all the fun we have planned, I took on some personal...

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Roller Coasters

Posted by on Jun 1, 2018 in Domestic Violence, Encouragement, Hope | 0 comments

I love roller coasters! We grew up going to Cedar Point in Sandusky, OH and rode them almost every summer when we visited my grandparents. They are so much fun with the twists and turn, and never knowing what’s around the next bend or corner. My son is also a dare devil and loves to ride them too. We recently rode one at the Kiddie Park in Oklahoma and it was a blast getting to watch him squeal with delight as we went around the track. My daughter didn’t care for it at all and is definitely my more cautious child. This got me thinking about...

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Hands and Feet

Posted by on May 9, 2018 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

My first year serving in BSF leadership is coming to a close this week. This year has been much needed surgery, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. 18 women were gifted to me this year. I use the word gifted because they have been the sweetest gift of encouragement, empathy, love, and support as we walked alongside each other through the year. I not only gained wonderful new friends, but hiking buddies, new connections, spiritual encouragement, and growth as a person. We learned so much over the year, but one consistent theme throughout...

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