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Rebuild or walk away?

Posted by on Sep 16, 2018 in Book, Relationships | 0 comments

The older you get the harder it is to maintain friendships. Life ebbs and flows, friends move away, and people move on to other circles. Moving this last year and additional health issues caused me to be in a funk. I wondered if this was my new reality or something else was happening. Part of my issue was thyroid cancer and thank goodness it’s gone! The cancer was causing exhaustion and a low-level depression while wreaking emotional havoc on my body. During this time a good friend of mine stopped being friendly. As we met to talk through our...

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Digital Detox

Posted by on Sep 7, 2018 in Encouragement, Kids, Marriage | 0 comments

This summer I decided to do a digital detox. What a hard thing to tackle. It tested my patience to not be in the know. I wondered what was going on in others lives, but this time gave me space to be present with others. This is why it started in the first place, to be present in my little kids lives. Summer’s are always such precious times as families. Taking a step back from the news, social media and other outlets truly helped me to refresh. It was such a lovely summer of refreshment. I’m thinking a  much shorter digital detox once a year...

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Were you a Christian during your abusive marriage?

Posted by on Aug 29, 2018 in Compassion, Domestic Violence, Marriage | 0 comments

I’ve had people ask me several times if I was Christian during my first marriage. Some Christians find it hard to believe you can enter a marriage like this and be a Christian. I beg to differ as I was personally naive and ignored the warning signs. An early twenty-something doesn’t always have the life skills to recognize when something is amiss in someone else. I was recently at a book event and this question came up after my talk. While being taken aback for 30 seconds, I gave them an answer I think they weren’t expecting. Yes I was...

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You’re exactly where you need to be

Posted by on Jul 9, 2018 in Comparison, Encouragement, Following God | 0 comments

It’s summer! I love (insert heart emoji many times) summer in Evergreen. It’s my favorite season up in the foothills because there is no snow and its warm. If it could be like this all year, I’d be in heaven. I would prefer to live at the beach, but my husband won’t let me buy a beach house until I’m older (like 60). That’s another story for another time. Summer is always a carefree time for us. We have a lot more freedom to go, explore and have adventures. However, in addition to all the fun we have planned, I took on some personal...

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Roller Coasters

Posted by on Jun 1, 2018 in Domestic Violence, Encouragement, Hope | 0 comments

I love roller coasters! We grew up going to Cedar Point in Sandusky, OH and rode them almost every summer when we visited my grandparents. They are so much fun with the twists and turn, and never knowing what’s around the next bend or corner. My son is also a dare devil and loves to ride them too. We recently rode one at the Kiddie Park in Oklahoma and it was a blast getting to watch him squeal with delight as we went around the track. My daughter didn’t care for it at all and is definitely my more cautious child. This got me thinking about...

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Hands and Feet

Posted by on May 9, 2018 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

My first year serving in BSF leadership is coming to a close this week. This year has been much needed surgery, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. 18 women were gifted to me this year. I use the word gifted because they have been the sweetest gift of encouragement, empathy, love, and support as we walked alongside each other through the year. I not only gained wonderful new friends, but hiking buddies, new connections, spiritual encouragement, and growth as a person. We learned so much over the year, but one consistent theme throughout...

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Living abundantly

Posted by on Apr 29, 2018 in Book, Encouragement | 0 comments

Living abundantly is a hope for people who have gone through hard times or suffering. Living abundantly is defined as life abounding in fullness of joy and strength of mind, body and soul. It can also motivate a person to seek a change in their life. How does one go about creating an abundant life? This is something I’ve worked to incorporate in my life since my divorce in 2003. I longed to know what the abundant life meant and how it could be lived out on a daily basis. Along the way, I learned lessons on living abundantly through hard...

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How My Life is Changing After Cancer

Posted by on Apr 10, 2018 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

Back in January life took a turn I didn’t see coming. When my doctor said my thyroid nodules had grown, I went ahead and had a biopsy done. The biopsy came back suspicious for thyroid cancer and two weeks ago, they took my thyroid out. Crazily the pathology came back with papillary thyroid cancer in both sides. While the cancer is all gone, the doctors will be watching me more closely now. My health has taken some crazy turns the last few years. Last October, I became really tired and hit a brick wall with my energy. When I tired to hit the...

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Rob Porter, the classic narcissist

Posted by on Feb 27, 2018 in Domestic Violence | 0 comments

Domestic violence is prevalent in today’s news. Recently, Rob Porter who resigned from the White House two weeks ago, had allegations of abuse come against him by two ex-wives. As it turns out, the first #MeToo story to actually trip up the White House needed to be as graphic and violent as the accusations against Rob Porter. It involved a Rhodes Scholar golden boy who had been married to two old-fashioned girls. This, and indeed the entire situation, provides the perfect mirror to reflect all the ways in which systems, fail women....

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Self-righteousness keeps us from compassion

Posted by on Feb 11, 2018 in Compassion, Following God | 0 comments

This past August it became very clear with the launch of my book that I would be moving in a different direction of healing. During the process of writing my book, I was able to remove the emotion and as a consequence didn’t shed a tear. Several people have asked, ‘Was it carthartic writing your book?’ And my answer has been yes and no. Personally, I thought I didn’t cry because I was healed from all the hurt the book represented. Not so much… Usually my crying happens at church, or at BSF (which they’re used to now). But in August when I...

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